I am feeling the excitement in the air as the holiday festivities and invitations begin to roll in. Please remember those who have had a painful year. Please remember that they have been impacted by serious changes in their lives and not to pass judgement. There are so many more things that you can do than to be more of a burden. Sometimes we are even when we think we are being helpful, we are not.
Sometimes we just do not know what to say. If you feel like the grief is too much to bear, please love them from afar but do not enable, demean or constantly talk about the person that you are supposed to be helping and a friend to.
Grief comes to us in many ways, the loss of a home, the loss of a marriage, the loss of a child from the home who moved out, the death of a loved one, a friend moving away and a whole host of other people, places and things that can trigger grief, anxiety or depression.
So if you know someone who has experienced or is experiencing grief, do something nice. You don’t have to even listen to their problem of the day but you can send them a card, gift, fruit basket or whatever you deem to be appropriate.
Who would not love a gift card to their favorite restaurant or coffee shop.
Remember you are trying to get them to move around and be active. The holidays are hard for some, especially when there has been a significant loss.
A gift or a card speaks volumes, even if you are just telling that person that it is your wish that they have a spectacular day.
This was printed in the November 18, 2012 - December 1, 201 2 Edition