Articles from Interpersonal EDGE
Interpersonal Edge: Stop playground tactics in workplace

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I work with a coworker who is fond of using negative labels with everyone he works with. People are incompetent, passive aggressive or stupid. The crazy thing is he actually thinks he is “communicating” when he is just calling people names. Most of the time neither I nor any of my coworkers know what upset him or what he wants. How can I get him to stop ruining morale with his enthusiastic name calling?
 
Read More Sunday, April 30, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Get well, not even

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I know I am a very vengeful person, and I really would rather get even than get mad. I believe in "karma" but also think some people really need to be punished when they run others over. What do you think about vindictive feelings? How do you deal with people making bad allegations against you? 
Read More Sunday, March 19, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Get well, not even

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I know I am a very vengeful person, and I really would rather get even than get mad. I believe in "karma" but also think some people really need to be punished when they run others over. What do you think about vindictive feelings? How do you deal with people making bad allegations against you? 
 
Read More Thursday, March 16, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Suffering presents an opportunity to learn and grow

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I'm in my 50s and have been working since I was 17. I am noticing that every year there are more things in my career that cause me pain. I am so exhausted with going to work and swimming upstream against all the problems that upset me. I feel like early retirement is my only option, but I can't afford that. What can I do?
 
Read More Monday, March 6, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Stormy workplace? Learn to swim

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. This year is starting out with nothing but storms. We are being bought by a different company, no one knows if they have a job, and all our roles will change. Most of us are losing our minds! You always have excellent ideas about stress and change. How can we handle all this chaos that we can't even control?
 
Read More Sunday, February 19, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Employees keep leaving? How to manage

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I manage a large team, and every year we seem to have faster turnover on our employees. We've done team building, additional rewards and retention bonuses, but it doesn't seem to slow down employees leaving. The odd thing is our team is ranked as one of the best to work on. What is going on, and how can I manage the problem of employees that barely last a year?
Read More Sunday, February 5, 2017
Interpersonal Edge: Pencil skirts are not career essential

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I have been thinking about how to dress for success at work as a woman. The problem is I'm middle aged and about 170 pounds. I cannot wear the really tailored, sharp-looking pencil skirts and snug business jackets. My career is wonderful but leaves little time for exercise. Can I dress for success without being 125 pounds?
Read More Sunday, December 11, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Sharing key facts decreases employees' anxiety in times of change

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. My company is facing huge changes starting next year. Rumors are flying around the company, but we are trying to keep the facts about the changes quiet until 2017. The problem is that, along with the rumors, we have increasing anxiety flying around our office. How can we in upper management manage the anxiety without revealing all the data about what will happen next year?
Read More Wednesday, November 30, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Holiday etiquette in the workplace

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. My office always enjoys the holiday season and celebrates them all. We've hired a lot of diverse people over the last six months. Some of our new employees are offended by Halloween (devil worship?), others are offended by Christmas celebrations and some think Thanksgiving is politically incorrect. How do you navigate these differences while still celebrating the holidays important to many of us? 
Read More Sunday, November 20, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Work for love, money or both?

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I am just entering the work world and am thinking about money and jobs. People older than I am seem to always think they don't make enough money. A lot of people also seem very bitter about people who do make a lot of money. I'd like my job to balance making a good living with having a good life. Can you have both?
 
Read More Monday, October 31, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Tone and gesture are often more truthful than words

 

  Q. My boss just did my review and told me I am monotone in my conversations at work. Apparently people read me as uninterested and disengaged. How important is tone of voice, and why does it matter what my tone is? Don't people pay attention to my words?

 
Read More Sunday, September 4, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: When politics comes up at work, be curious, not judgmental

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. People in my workplace are getting very polarized about the upcoming election and the two probable candidates, Hilary Clinton and Donald Trump. Emotions seem to be running higher this year than in any election I can remember. There seem to be intense feelings on both sides. How can I navigate these conversations without alienating my coworkers? Why do people get so angry over these political differences?
 
Read More Sunday, August 21, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Balancing grief and work

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. My wife died very recently, and I am now a single parent of young kids. I have to admit my attention at work is greatly diminished. I’m afraid I’ll get fired, but I know I am unable to give my all at work. How can I balance intense grief and keeping my job?
Read More Monday, August 8, 2016
Thirty minutes (and that's plenty) with Pokemon Go

 By Greg Schwem

Tribune Content Agency
 
  Oh boy, am I gonna have FUN today! I'm gonna download Pokemon Go and join three quarters of the world's inhabitants - including my next door neighbor, his daughter, their cat, my plumber and maybe even LeBron James - who are wandering around the world staring at their phones while trying not to get hit by a city bus.
Read More Monday, August 8, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Make your annoying coworker a free career coach

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I really, really dislike one of my coworkers. She is bossy, arrogant and demanding. She seems to have no shame about promoting herself and getting what she wants. Every day I dread dealing with her. Are there any techniques to handle the people at work that you hate the most?
 
Read More Sunday, July 24, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: The math of goal setting

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I feel like I'm getting nowhere in my career. I work hard, show up every day and still don't get ahead. I am trying to figure out what I need to learn to make this the year I have a career break through. How can I improve my goal setting so I'm satisfied with my progress this year?
Read More Sunday, June 26, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Make fear a friend, not a foe

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. My company is facing significant challenges in 2016. I am worried about my job, my industry and how we are going to solve numerous complicated problems to stay afloat. My worry is affecting my health, my family and my focus at work. What do you tell your clients about how to deal with their fears in the workplace?
 
Read More Sunday, June 12, 2016
Amidst the Thrills, Keep it Safe on Carnival and Amusement Rides; Ride Responsibly

 

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 The more than 40 million people who will travel Michigan to enjoy carnival and amusement rides this season are urged to make safety a priority, especially with the kids

Read More Sunday, June 12, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Is an office war worth it?

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. There's a power struggle/war going on in my office that could result in me greatly increasing my salary. I've been fighting this battle along with others on my team, but it is getting really ugly and personal at this point. I'm not sleeping well, worrying about it a lot, and the battle is consuming a lot of my time during the day. How do you determine the battles you fight and the battles you walk away from?
 
Read More Monday, May 30, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Your coworkers' prickliness is about them, not you

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. The people I work with seem rarely to take the way they affect me into account. Why do they think so little of me? How can I work well with others when they appear to have no interest in my needs?
Read More Sunday, May 15, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Workplace friendships are different from those in private life

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I'm a very loyal person, and I have a hard time with the rapid coming and going of people in the workplace. I enjoy long-term relationships, and it just seems like I get whiplash watching the turn over at work. How do you recommend your clients handle their personal attachments to people at work?
Read More Sunday, May 1, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: If you run yourself ragged, don't expect gratitude
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I try really, really hard to be good at my job. I work late, work extra and always go the extra mile. I get really upset when customers get mad at me anyway. Recently, a customer made a big stink after I bent over backwards to help her. I felt so unappreciated. I keep obsessing about what she said about me and worried about my reputation. How can you handle negative reviews when you try so hard to do it right?
Read More Sunday, April 17, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Anger is energy; use it to your advantage

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I work too much and feel pretty much underpaid and underappreciated. Promises were made when I first took this job, and none of these promises have been fulfilled. When I try to meet with my manager, he avoids me. I figure it is time to hit the job hunt trail. I can't wait to see my manager's face when I tell him to shove this stupid job. Is there a best way to look for a job while still employed?
Read More Sunday, February 21, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: What is workplace enlightenment?

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I'm interested in emotional maturity, personal growth and enlightenment, but every day I just want to bite people at work. Isn't enlightenment some state you achieve where you sit around in nirvana all day?
Read More Sunday, February 7, 2016
Interpersonal Edge: Right words can transform an antagonist into an ally

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
 A. I often find people at work will respond in an intensely negative way to a word I use when I don't mean anything bad by it. Then people get upset and think I want to fight with them. How do I stop these cycles of conflict before they begin?
Read More Sunday, December 27, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: To tackle big tasks, use the 5 minute solution

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. My job has numerous large projects that I never get a chance to tackle. I can't seem to carve out enough time to get any one complicated assignment done. Do you have a strategy for getting large projects done when you are overwhelmed with daily demands?
 
Read More Sunday, December 20, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Get support for personal tragedy outside the workplace

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I'm going through a bad divorce and a cancer diagnosis. I do not know how much to tell people at work. Obviously, I'm thinking about my personal life a lot, but I don't want other people to see me as incompetent. How can I maintain both my credibility and my sanity through this difficult time? 
Read More Tuesday, December 1, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Make sure workplace jerk doesn’t

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I have a guy at work that everyone agrees is rude, arrogant and hostile. I am the opposite. He has made it clear to our team that he doesn’t like me. The weird thing is that people always throw me under the bus and blame me about the conflict. Why do people favor the people who act badly and not support the person who is nice? And how do I deal with this?
Read More Sunday, November 15, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Seek the truth - not mere compliments - about your work performance

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I've noticed how often I have intense emotional reactions to both praise and criticisms at work. When I am complimented, I do pretty much whatever the person flattering me asks. When I am criticized, I end up getting upset for days about whether I am doing a good job. Is there a way to not be so influenced by whether people like what I am doing or not? 
 
Read More Sunday, November 1, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Better boundaries guarantee better behavior

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I am a great believer in second chances, but I’m finding people use my generosity to take advantage of me repeatedly. How can I give people the benefit of the doubt without ending up on the short end of the stick?
 
Read More Sunday, October 18, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Hate the flakes who won't commit? Force the issue

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: When I look at the long lil s Q: People who won't commit drive me crazy. They seem to think I'm waiting in suspended animation - just in case they decide to follow through! Is there a strategy to get flaky people to either make a commitment or leave me alone? I'm so tired of organizing my schedule around people who won't make a plan and won't go away, either.
Read More Sunday, October 4, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: the path to big-time career success starts with small achievements

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: When I look at the long list of tasks to do before I can get ahead in my job this year, I feel discouraged. When I look at people I admire, I simply can’t understand how they accomplished all they did to end up so successful. Is there a strategy you teach clients to achieve great things when they’re overwhelmed by the number of steps to the goal?
Read More Sunday, September 20, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Collaboration trumps independence in the workplace

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

  Q: I’m hard-working, thorough and extremely competent, so it frustrates me how often co-workers drop the ball. My boss says I need to work with my team better, but they don’t know as much as I do. How can I can improve teamwork and still maintain my productivity?

Read More Sunday, September 6, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Fight the battle you can win

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: Every Monday I walk into work, I face a lot of power struggles. At the end of the day, I end up exhausted and pondering my options. How should I deal with these power struggles so I can actually enjoy my work again?
Read More Sunday, July 26, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Grieve your ‘ideal’ life to thrive in the real world

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: I’m in my late 40s and my career (and life) are nothing like what I was hoping for. I spend a fair amount of time feeling like I got the short end of the stick. I know focusing on all my disappointments won’t help me succeed, but I can’t see an alternative. How do you advise clients when their work life falls far short of their imagined ideal?
Read More Sunday, July 12, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Would cosmetic surgery provide a career edge?

 

 
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q: I'm a woman in my early 60s, and I've started noticing people in my workplace acting like I'm invisible. I've considered cosmetic surgery, but have conflicting feelings about being vain. Has any research been done on how cosmetic surgery affects people's careers?
Read More Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Effective parenting can help kids succeed financially

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: I have young adult kids getting ready to enter the work world. I see so many parents who end up supporting their kids financially. Are there approaches you teach that help kids become financially independent and succeed in their chosen careers?
Read More Sunday, June 14, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Become your own executive coach

 

 
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q: I’m often my own worst enemy. Especially when I face challenges, I speak to myself in really mean-spirited ways. Then I end up feeling resentful and doing nothing. How can I break this vicious cycle?
Read More Sunday, May 31, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: When reality bites, adapt!

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I spend a lot of time at work bitching in my head about the “way things are.” I’m in my early 30s and disillusioned about all the ideals I started with in my career. The rules I played by in my 20s didn’t get me where I want to go. Now I’m trying to reformat my expectations. Do you have any tips on how to deal with the fact that reality bites and how to be effective in situations you don’t like?
 
Read More Sunday, May 17, 2015
Interpersonal Edge:Make office adversary your new best friend

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

  Q: There’s one guy in my office who drives me up a wall. He’s self-centered, arrogant and always putting others down. I’ve tried rising above it, but that doesn’t work. I try feeling sorry for him and that doesn’t work. The truth is, I’d like to tar and feather him and ride him out of town. How do you work with someone you truly detest?

Read More Saturday, April 18, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: You can turn complaints into solutions

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I manage a customer service department with demanding clients. Between the whining of our customers and the whining of my employees, I'm surrounded by negativity. By the end of the day, I'm exhausted. Is there a better way to manage all the grumbling?
 
Read More Sunday, March 22, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Save your help for those who ask

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I’ve been doing well in my career for a long time. Lately, however, I’m noticing that when I attempt to point out pretty obvious problems, a lot of people either cut me off or get angry at me. I think it’s my responsibility to pass on what I’ve learned to people less experienced. Why am I getting punished for trying to be helpful?
 
Read More Sunday, March 8, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Learn to discern whom to mentor

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

Q. I've managed employees at organization for 20 years and consider myself an exceptional mentor. What I find frustrating is how often my employees both don't appreciate my help and don't use what I have to offer. Can you explain why people are often so stubbornly self-destructive at work and resent genuinely good advice?

 
Read More Sunday, February 22, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Be here now for workplace success

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. I always hear about the power of being in the present and can see the "now" might have spiritual benefit. I fail, however, to see how being present can help me make more money or advance in my company. Plus, when I attempt to be more present I tend to see more problems. 
 
Read More Sunday, February 8, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Spot narcissists before they hurt you

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

Q. I swear that half the people I work with lack empathy and are arrogant and completely self-absorbed. What can I do so they don't make me miserable?

 
Read More Sunday, January 25, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Managing stupid people tricks

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. My organization has tripled the number of employees I supervise, and I'm exhausted with how many stupid mistakes they make. I make every effort to train them and yet they still manage to misunderstand nearly everything I say. How can I make the job to clear to them and not waste so much time with their mistakes?
Read More Sunday, January 11, 2015
Interpersonal Edge: Customer not always right, but he's never wrong

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. I've tried to explain to an important customer that he misunderstood our policies when he hired my company. The customer can't admit he was wrong and is now talking to my boss, and I'm in trouble. How did this end up my fault?
 
Read More Sunday, December 28, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Playing blame game is giving up your own power to change

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. I'm in the middle of my career and so tired of running into roadblocks to get promoted, get better paid and have projects that are more interesting. I have found the problem is usually my boss, my coworkers and the customers I tend to work with. How can I succeed when the problem is other people?
Read More Sunday, November 30, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Want a new career? Explore new hobbies

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

  Q. I'm in my 40s and wondering if I picked the wrong career track. I don't know what else I might want to do, but I feel bored and irritated more often than I ever did when I was young and idealistic. What should I do?

 
Read More Sunday, November 16, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Playing blame game is giving up your own power to change

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
Q. The largest problem I have at work is with other people. Every time something goes wrong at my job, I'm staring at someone who did something stupid, incompetent or thoughtless. How do you approach problems that are someone else's fault?
Read More Friday, November 14, 2014
Excuse me are you listening? 13-21

  Dear Readers,

 
I am not a huge fan of sports but baseball makes my heart flutter.  I do not really watch it or listen to it much now but it reminds me of my grandpa, Ralph Carrington, who died some years ago.  Recently, I found out that he was a New York City taxi cab driver and my grandmother was recruited by Saks Fifth Avenue to make wedding dresses. 
Read More Sunday, November 2, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: The power of not knowing

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
 Q. I've been in my job for 20 years. When I started in my career, I thought I knew just about everything. Now most days I wrestle with how much I don't know. How do you deal with getting good enough at what you do to see how much more you don't know?
Read More Sunday, November 2, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Politeness in workplace doesn't cost, it pays

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency
 
   Q. I'm told I'm gruff and perceived as difficult at work. The truth is I focus on getting the job done. I watched a news show yesterday about how people at work sabotage you when they don't like you. In the show, the baristas at coffee shops even gave customers decaf rather than caffeine when the customer was rude. Do you think people go out of their way to undermine you if they think you are impolite?
Read More Sunday, October 19, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Solve interpersonal problems rather than recycling them

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Content Agency
 
  Q. I am overwhelmed in my job and often don't have time to deal with people who are incompetent, huffy or wasting my time. When I try to get other people to focus on the job, they often look upset and I still don't get them to be productive. How can I quit wasting so much time on things that have nothing to do with my work?
Read More Sunday, October 5, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Sharing your feelings won't boost your effectiveness at work

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Content Agency

 

  Q. I've been through quite a bit of therapy, and I believe it is important for me to be honest with my feelings at work. The other day I told a coworker he was hurting my feelings, and he just got mad. Isn't the point of mental health to know how you feel? Is there a way to talk about my feelings that doesn't make my situation worse?

 
Read More Sunday, September 21, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Courage is a muscle - use it!

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. There are many people I admire in my career, but I think they were all born with a whole lot more courage than I was. I know they had to risk failing or looking foolish or being disappointed. Do you think that some people just start out with more self-confidence? How can I compete with people who are simply born braver than I was?
 
Read More Sunday, August 10, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: To land a job, walk a mile in employer's shoes

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I've been looking to get a better job and can't figure out how anyone gets hired these days. I send my resume into the technical black hole of computer websites and never hear back from a human being. How can you get a new job when you can't even connect with anyone in the organization?
Read More Sunday, July 13, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Intuition is key to uncommon success

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I often hear that timing is critical to workplace success. I do try to analyze the best moment to take action at work but find myself paralyzed by all the possibilities and a lack of complete data. How do I figure out timing as I navigate my complex workplace?
 
Read More Sunday, June 29, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Get your kids ready for real work world

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. My teens are getting ready to go to college, and I see 20-year-olds having a terrible time getting jobs. Are there some tips you can give to help me get my kids ready for the real world of work?
 
Read More Sunday, June 15, 2014
Kiplinger on Travel: How to save money on vacation rental properties?

When I travel with my family, we tend to stay in vacation rental properties rather than hotels. Why? They offer more space and a kitchen to cook our own meals at a price that's typically lower than a hotel room.

Read More Sunday, June 1, 2014
Jill on Money: Long term care update; "Is 90 the new 70?"

Americans are getting older. A new U.S. Census Bureau report projects that roughly one in five Americans (about 21 percent) will be 65 years old and up by 2050, compared with just 13 percent in 2010 and less than 10 percent in 1970. Taking a longer view, the numbers are startling.

Read More Sunday, June 1, 2014
Interpersonal EDGE: 13-10


  Q. I often see better choices I could have made after a crisis at work has passed. Is there a way I can pay more attention before and during a predicament?

  A. Even the most successful business men and women in history constantly faced adversity. The difference between them and their competitors, whom history has forgotten, is that successful people look for the opportunity in a problem.

Read More Sunday, June 1, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Getting 'stupid' employees to execute simple instructions

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I was just promoted into management and am shocked at how stupid my employees can be. I give them directions and then they do 18 things I didn't want. I'm getting really frustrated and curt with them. How do I make sure they do tasks the way I want them done?
 
Read More Monday, March 31, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: How to tell you're working with a narcissist

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. One of my resolutions this year is to be a better judge of character of those I work with. I'm often unpleasantly surprised by the bad behavior of bosses, employees and customers. Since you are a people skills expert, I wanted to know if there was one emotional quality you look for in people?
Read More Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Help coworker choose diversity, not soap box

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I work with somebody who is a strict vegan. Not a problem except that when we have a party, go out to lunch with customers, or eat in the break room, she gives us judgmental looks and comments about meat. I don't mind her making a choice for herself, but the disapproving glares and remarks are super annoying. How can I get her to stop?
Read More Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Steer clear of "dragon" wars at work

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I have a new job that I love. My boss just took me aside and told me there was a female manager who thinks I dress inappropriately and don't do my job well. I can tell she doesn't like this woman one bit. I want to take feedback well, but I'm not sure what to do. I'm also concerned I could end up being in the middle of fight they are already having. How do I navigate this? 

 

Read More Sunday, January 12, 2014
Interpersonal Edge: Helping employee understand the meaning of 'no'

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I have an employee that treats "no" as little more than a speed bump. He just goes faster and pretends I didn't say anything. Also, if I give him an inch on any policy, he figures the policy doesn't even apply. I have had repeated conversations where I point out the rules; he smiles and then does what he damn pleases. How do I get him to toe the line?
Read More Sunday, December 29, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Get the credit you deserve
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q.  When my boss asks for ideas, I find I will often state a good idea, it will get talked over, and then someone says the same thing and takes the credit. Is there a way I diplomatically can point out that I said it first?
Read More Sunday, November 17, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Just say no to hiring personality problems
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I recently hired a guy who is very smart, but I knew he was really self-absorbed and entitled. I thought his resume and skill set would be worth his demanding attitude. I'm finding that he is pawning projects off on coworkers, lying to me about what he has done, and blaming everyone but himself for problems. What can I do now, and how can I avoid this in the future? 
 
Read More Sunday, October 20, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Make verbal abuser accountable
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I have a coworker who is constantly verbally abusive. He calls me names, yells and puts my work down. I have to work with this guy a lot, and I'm ending up calling in sick just to avoid him. When I go to my boss, she just tells me to work harder at "getting along," like it is my fault. I like my job but can't tolerate my coworker. What can I do?
Read More Monday, October 7, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Flying off handle won't create change
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I am one that flies off the handle and there is a big reason I do. I'm interrupted so much that when I am trying to speak, if someone doesn't interrupt me, I actually stutter. I've spoken up and it still happens. Any suggestions? I'm starting to hate my fellow human beings! 
Read More Sunday, September 22, 2013
Hope Still Out for Older Job Seekers

 

By Rick Garcia
 
After receiving my first AARP membership in the mail, I knew I would soon belong to a membership that can not be avoided - Being a Senior Citizen.
Read More Sunday, September 8, 2013
Retire Smart: Drowning in documents: What to shred, what to keep

 

By Jill Schlesinger
Tribune Media Services
 
You probably just received some bank, investment or retirement quarterly statements in the mail, which makes it a perfect time to fire up the shredder and organize that stack of documents piling up on the table. 
 
  Here are some thoughts on financial paperwork that you can toss:
Read More Sunday, September 8, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Brilliant interview questions for hires
 

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I am being asked to do more and more hiring of new employees for my team. We have a standard set of interview questions, but people don't always tell the truth. Especially when it comes to interpersonal skills, I have trouble screening for quality people. Are there any brilliant interview questions that reveal the personality I'm about to hire?
Read More Sunday, September 8, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Fix workplace burnout
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. My company has been in crisis mode for about three years now, and I am thoroughly burned out. I don't want to be seen as lazy, but I need a break, vacation and some life balance. At first, I was productive with the long hours, but now I make repeated stupid mistakes. How can I convince my manager breaks are good for productivity?
Read More Sunday, August 25, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Speak up if you want gratitude
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. No one seems to be noticing all the good work I have done. I am very good at my job, tackle the hard projects, and even help out when my coworkers are swamped. Do I just work for an unusually ungrateful organization?
Read More Sunday, August 11, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: End the gravy train for 'special' employee
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have an employee on my team who is charming and always trying to get me to give him extra goodies. He wants extra time with me, special treatment or for me to bend the rules for him. I'm exhausted trying to manage him. How do I let him know his gravy train is over?
 
Read More Sunday, July 28, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Stop workplace drama queens
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I am so tired of the personal drama in my workplace. It seems like a lot of my coworkers constantly search out any reason to go on and on about what is unfair, or how people are mean, or they never get what they deserve. Honestly, I'm fine with problem-solving but sick of hysteria. Is there a way to get coworkers to focus on solutions?
Read More Sunday, June 30, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Getting What You Want at Work!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I notice there are two schools of thought about getting ahead at work: the altruistic (if you help others, you'll get good things) and the aggressive (go ahead and run people over if it gets you what you want). Neither of these approaches seem right to me. Is there any other alternative?
Read More Sunday, June 16, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Learn better ways to deliver bad news to coworkers
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. Sometimes, in my job, I have to say things that make people mad. You often talk about how to be diplomatic with coworkers. Is there a way to deliver bad news that doesn't annoy people?
Read More Saturday, June 1, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Want a promotion? Make mistakes
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I have a job where the same thing never happens twice. I end up making a lot of mistakes. My boss says mistakes are just part of the learning curve, but I get so upset I shake when I realize I messed up. How can I develop more self-confidence?
Read More Saturday, May 18, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Fixing rejection at the office
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I'm the one at work no one likes. I'm the one that's hard to get along with, yet I am always respectful and nice to everyone. I am not a gossiper. This has been going on my whole work life. Within one to two weeks of starting a new job, it feels as though whatever "test" I have been given, I failed. And anything after that is just people putting up with me because I'm very good at what I do. Any advice?
Read More Saturday, May 4, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Do you dare tell the truth at work?
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I've noticed a lot of people in my workplace seem to play it fast and loose with the truth. They often cover up their mistakes and play up their strengths. My coworker says this is marketing, I think it is lying. Who is right?
Read More Sunday, April 21, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Identify root of workplace problems
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I'm generally overwhelmed by the number of problems I face at work every day. I've been to time management classes. I know how to prioritize. I still see no way to actually fix the mountain of issues that face me every Monday morning. Is there some way not to start out behind every day I go to work?
Read More Sunday, April 7, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: When dumb is smart
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I work with a very smart guy who seems to make everything complicated. We often have to explain projects to customers. How do I get him to dumb it down, so we don't lose projects, without insulting him?
Read More Sunday, March 24, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Choose power, not pity

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

 Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. The past year has been nothing but drama. There has been a huge amount of turnover, unexpected changes, and demanding projects. Everyone in the company is constantly making things worse by complaining about how unfair it all is. Is there a way to get my team to focus more on fixing problems than whining about their circumstances?
Read More Saturday, March 9, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Don't get even at work; think about ways to get ahead

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I get angry at work because people rarely do what they should. I end up picking up the pieces. My boss recently told me my coworkers think I'm creating a hostile workplace. Well, I think they are not doing the job they're paid for. Am I right?
 
Read More Saturday, February 23, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Don't fall for fantasy in the workplace
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My team and my manager work with a charismatic supervisor who is always telling lies about what he's going to do for our company. My team and manager hang on every word he says, make excuses for why he doesn't deliver, and then look forward to his next promise. I'm sick of my team getting hung out to dry. How do I get my team and manager to wake up?
Read More Saturday, February 9, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Secrets to succeeding at New Year's resolutions
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q.  Seems like January is always a good time to evaluate my habits and attempt to set up better goals. I'd like to work on everything from keeping my desk cleaner to not saying snarky things in meetings. Seems by February every year, all my good intentions have faded. How can I actually succeed at keeping my New Year's resolutions?
Read More Sunday, January 27, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Get uncooperative coworker to help
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My manager wants me to work with a guy who never follows through on what I ask him to do. Then my manager blames me for not getting my work done. I have tried to tell my coworker that he needs to cooperate with me or I'll get in trouble, but he doesn't care. How do I get my coworker to shape up?
 
Read More Sunday, January 13, 2013
Interpersonal Edge: Make boss 'get real' about expectations
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My boss has ridiculous expectations about what I should do at work. I'm getting exhausted from him telling me to "fly" and me having to explain why I can't. Is there any diplomatic way to get a boss to get real when it comes to expectations of employees.
Read More Friday, December 28, 2012
Interpersonal Edge: An edge for discouraged job seekers
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I'm in my 20s and I'm discouraged about how to give myself any advantage in such a competitive tough job market. Are there strategies you recommend to clients who are struggling to get the attention of potential employers?
Read More Sunday, December 16, 2012
Interpersonal Edge: The secret to office time management
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. Seems like every day I have 90 items on my to-do list and nothing gets done. Instead, my boss, coworkers and clients end up giving me 90 more tasks. I feel completely overwhelmed. Is there any trick to time management in the workplace?
Read More Sunday, December 2, 2012
Interpersonal Edge: Success means multiple career plans

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I'm attempting to do career planning. However, every time I think I have a plan, something changes in my industry. How do you plan when you have no way of knowing what changes are going to occur in your organization and field?
Read More Monday, November 19, 2012
Interpersonal Edge: Focus on results not getting apology
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have to work with another team and manager who treats me and my team badly. I keep trying to get him and his team members to see that the way they act is unprofessional. The manager gets huffy and his team members get hostile. How can I get them to behave appropriately?
Read More Sunday, November 4, 2012
Interpersonal Edge: Drooling over career daydream? Try it on!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. The last few years have been really hard in my industry. I find myself increasingly daydreaming about opening a surf shop on some distant tropical island or a restaurant anywhere but here. My friends tell me I'm having a mid-career crisis. Is there any way to check out daydreams to see if they are ridiculous fantasies or possible careers?
Read More Sunday, October 21, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Burned Out? Here's a Plan!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I started out young and idealistic, but I am finding I have had so many disappointments that I just don't care about much anyone. How do you keep caring about your job when retirement is far away and you are burned out?
Read More Sunday, September 23, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Desperation is Mother of Job Breakthroughs
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. Everything I have tried in the last few years professionally seems to have crashed and burned. I am tired, discouraged and out of great ideas. What do you tell your clients who have tried everything and failed?
Read More Sunday, September 9, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Job Door Slams Shut? Pry Open Window!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I've been in my field for 25 years, and it is going the way of the dinosaurs. With the economy as it is, there is no way I can afford to retire. Do you have ideas about how to stay employable when your old industry is dying?
Read More Monday, August 27, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: You Are the One You've Been Waiting For
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. The people I work for are crazy. The decisions they make are consistently irrational, abusive and unpredictable. I've been here four years, and my health has gone downhill. Can stress make you sick? And is there anything I can do?
Read More Sunday, August 12, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Thrive Despite Career Setbacks
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. I have a friend who is very religious and believes that if you are a member of her religion, nothing bad should happen to you. I have had a string of bad luck in my career this year, and she keeps telling me this is proof God is punishing me. Is God out to get me, or do bad things happen to good people?
Read More Sunday, July 29, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Read Your Boss's Mind!

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
  Q. What kind of opinion does my boss have of me when anytime I have a conversation with him he either laughs at me or contradicts me?  Consequently, I don't ask him questions or speak to him unless I really have to. How do I know what he thinks?  
Read More Thursday, July 19, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Show You the Money!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I want to get a raise but also realize these days I'm lucky to have a job. Are there rules about how to negotiate for a raise? 
Read More Sunday, July 15, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Success Is Not a Popularity Contest

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

   Q. I've been in my career for a long time, and I am surprised I am not further up the corporate food chain. I'm friendly and adaptive, and I get along with everyone. For all my popularity, I still can't seem to achieve the respect and influence I deserve. What can I do differently?   

Read More Sunday, June 17, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Working Hard and Not Getting Ahead? Read This!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 Q. I've been in my job for 10 years. I'm loyal, hard working, have great people skills, and am highly competent. I am also consistently passed over for promotions. The people who are promoted are far less competent. I don't get it! How do I get on my company's promotional track?
Read More Sunday, June 3, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Is Your Workplace a Tower of Babel?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. Don't men and women approach communication differently? Are you recommending techniques in your column that work for men better or women?

Read More Sunday, May 6, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Avoid Hero Worship with Mentor
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have a mentor at work that I profoundly respect, and I've tried to have her be my role model. The problem is that we have dramatically different personalities, and I just can't make some of her habits work for me. Do you have any advice on how to learn from a mentor who is very different than you?
 
Read More Sunday, April 22, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Let Anger Energize your Effectiveness

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I've been in my career for about 20 years, and the older I get, the crankier I get. Even little things will set me ruminating for hours. I've tried just shifting my attention, but my thoughts go right back to what upsets me. Is there any way to work with anger that doesn't leave you drained at the end of the day?
Read More Sunday, April 8, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Grab Opportunity to Walk on Water
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My boss thinks I walk on water and is ready to give me a large project. I'm just not sure I have all the skills to succeed at the project. On the other hand, I'd be set for a promotion if I do well. I'm getting insomnia trying to decide what to do. What would your advice be?
Read More Sunday, March 25, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: When Job Turns Upside Down ... Learn Flips!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My industry has completely changed within the last few years, and I'm struggling trying to figure out how to navigate the new landscape. Most days, I just think how unfair it is that after working so hard I have to completely revamp my career. Is there a way for people to successfully adapt when their work world keeps turning upside down?
Read More Sunday, March 11, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Dealing with Emotional Terrorists
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. Our organization is considering promoting a current vice president to CEO. She is prejudicial and overbearing, has no people skills, calls employees stupid, belittles them many times, resulting in tears, is always right, and yells in public at employees. 

How do we deal with the situation if she becomes our permanent CEO? 
Read More Sunday, February 26, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Get Recharged at Work!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. Sometimes I get really exhausted dealing with people issues at work. Other people don't seem to find the politics so tiring. Am I just a wimp?
Read More Monday, February 13, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Stop Office Grapevine
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. Sometimes I get really exhausted dealing with people issues at work. Other people don't seem to find the politics so tiring. Am I just a wimp?
Read More Sunday, January 29, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Balancing Pregnancy and Work
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My organization is not family friendly, and I just found out I'm pregnant. I am superb at my job, have a good track record, and don't want to stop working. Do you have any suggestions for women about balancing babies and career?
Read More Sunday, January 1, 2012
Interpersonal EDGE: Sailing Through Workplace Change
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I started out my career planning to be in one industry but have ended up in another. It seems that every time I get my goals planned in one direction, another direction opens up and messes up my plan. How do you recommend people deal with careers when every plan is subject to change?
 
Read More Sunday, December 18, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Too Many Bosses, Too Little Time

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. My organization has been bought three different times in the last five years and I currently have three different bosses that I report to. The problem is every boss acts like they are my only manager. I cannot possibly get through the list of responsibilities they each give me every week. How do I avoid getting fired?

Read More Sunday, December 4, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Stop Paying for Coworker Mistakes

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. Is incompetency the new normal? Every time I turn around at work, somebody is dropping the ball, making a mistake or just being plain being stupid. I am really tired of having to pay for everyone else's mistakes. How can I stop having my job impacted by other people not doing their jobs?

Read More Sunday, November 20, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Naked Honesty Not Best Corporate Policy
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have a coworker who believes honesty is the best policy, and he is also a regular bull in a china shop. He is smart, competent and uniformly disliked because he seems to compulsively tell the truth. I like him, he makes my job easier, and I'd like to help him succeed. Is there anything I can say?
Read More Sunday, November 6, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: How to Ride the Pony of Corporate Change

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I'm a baby boomer and am simply exhausted at the pace of change that keeps happening in my workplace. I've paid my dues, worked hard and even went back to get a graduate degree. When do I get to a point where I have the luxury to stop being forced to change?

Read More Sunday, October 23, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: What to Do When Work Hands You Lemons?

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have had several really out of the blue work crises this year that have me feeling shocked and dismayed. I was raised to think good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. The worst part is that I've had smug coworkers with better fortune saying I must deserve my bad luck. Am I cursed, and how do I turn my work life around?
Read More Saturday, October 8, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Handling Snakes in Corporate Grass

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. Several years ago I was accused of falsifying documents by a male coworker. My managers knew my coworker was untrustworthy, so the accusations were ignored. Now my accuser works in another division and talks frequently with my staff. How do I protect myself from a repeat of slander without appearing slanderous myself?

Read More Saturday, September 24, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Stopping Epidemic of Huffiness at Work
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
 
Q. I've been a union steward for years. During conflict, I've noticed people sometimes make accusations because they are losing. One worker claimed another worker was "crossing her out" because he had his arms crossed and then refused to work with him. How do you keep a conversation focused on solutions not blame?
 
Read More Saturday, September 10, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Tired of Bad Luck? Read This!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I am feeling demoralized and depressed about the way my career has gone for the last five years. It seems like every time I get a break, it turns out to be disappointing in the end. Why does work (and life) need to be so hard? Other people seem to have it easy. What am I doing wrong?
Read More Saturday, August 27, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Tired of Bad Luck? Read This!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I am feeling demoralized and depressed about the way my career has gone for the last five years. It seems like every time I get a break, it turns out to be disappointing in the end. Why does work (and life) need to be so hard? Other people seem to have it easy. What am I doing wrong?
 
Read More Saturday, August 13, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Help Co-Worker Bent on Self-Destruction?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I have a good friend at work who lately seems to be on a path of self-destruction. She is showing up late at work, not submitting her work on schedule, and generally is putting her job at risk. I've been trying to cover for her, but that is starting to put my job at risk. I can't afford to lose my job, but I feel bad for my friend. How can I deal with this?

Read More Saturday, July 30, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Can Co-Workers Be True Friends?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I have several co-workers I consider friends whom I've talked with quite candidly about how I feel about our team and personal issues in my marriage. Now I'm hearing some of this information in our office grapevine, and I'm really upset. How can I make sure that what I say to my friends stays private?
 

Read More Saturday, July 16, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Out of Options with Rude Co-Worker?
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I work with one rude co-worker and have tried everything to get along with him. It seems like the nicer I am, the worse he acts. Do you have any suggestions on how to shape up an especially rude co-worker?
 
Read More Saturday, July 2, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Deflating Co-worker Defensiveness

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. No matter what I do with one of my co-workers, he tells me the job I did is not good enough. He also finds some flaw in everything I do. I'm ready to either give up or scream at him. I love your advice and thought you might have a better idea. Help!

Read More Sunday, June 19, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Global Unrest: Boon or Bust for Business?
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. All the news about the unrest in Egypt and the ripple effect in the Middle East makes me nervous about the fallout global change will have for business. I'm tempted to just stop paying attention to the news but I know not having information is not a solution. How do you advise your clients on controlling their careers with so many big events happening that are not within their control?
Read More Saturday, June 4, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Is Criticizing 'Fat People' Workplace Harassment

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I work with a guy who has lost a lot of weight and now is constantly running down "disgusting fat people." In every conversation, he brings up his healthy food choices and criticizes fat people. I'm overweight and starting to dread going to work. My co-worker brings up the topic at every chance (even in front of clients). My husband says this is harassment. What can I do?

Read More Sunday, May 22, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Tricks for Running Workplace Marathon

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. People in my industry are starting to believe we're coming out of the recession, but everyone at my job is still expected to do more with less. We laid off people, cut budgets, and reduced our resources. I'm exhausted! How can I cope with this job stress until the economy rebounds?

Read More Sunday, May 8, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Fear of Conflict Can Create Big Messes

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q: In a recent column, you talked about why avoiding conflict at all costs is expensive. We'd all like lions to lie down with lambs but that occurs in Eden, not the workplace. I've been hired to replace a Human Resources Director who never dealt with conflict. How do I shape up the organization?
 
Read More Thursday, April 21, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Manage Attacking Co-Worker By Being Bored

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q: I've been in a long-term conflict with a co-worker. We've both been promoted to the management team of my company. At every meeting, this guy starts a fight, insulting me or undermining my authority. How do I get him to stop?

 

Read More Friday, April 8, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Thawing Cold War with Coworker
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have a coworker who gets quiet and withdraws whenever I ask a question. I think she feels criticized. Should I ask her why she is behaving like this?
 
Read More Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Help for Workplace Politics is Here!

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. My workplace is super political. Every day I go to work, I'm trying to figure out what is going on between people just to get my job done. I don't have much interest in psychology and leave work exhausted most days. Lately, I'm just ignoring politics, but now my boss says people think I'm "difficult." How can I get my workplace to change?
Read More Thursday, March 17, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Give Criticism But Skip Crisis

  By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I'm the manager of a large department under enormous production pressures. When I give bad feedback, employees get defensive, resentful or openly hostile. How do I deliver criticism without demoralizing my staff?
Read More Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Miscarriage-Urban Legends

 

Miscarriage-Urban Legends

1. If I have a miscarriage it must mean that I can’t ever have children. This is not true.  The odds are overwhelmingly in your favor to have a successful pregnancy after having a miscarriage.  Studies show that 70% of women successfully conceive after miscarrying.

 

Read More Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Discomfort is Birthplace of Success

 

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I've had a career for 20 years and believed it would get easier the longer I worked. Instead, I find the work is easier and the people issues harder. How can I stop wasting time feeling so uncomfortable and frustrated by people at work?
 
Read More Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Interpersonal Edge: Help! I'm a Mommy Not a Manager!

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I am a manager and I feel like more of a mommy. I am constantly nagging employees to do their job, and I'm exhausted. Is there a better way to motivate employees to do what I ask?
 

Read More Sunday, January 16, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Is Spirituality Good for Success?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I've gone through a tough year, and I've been seeking ways to make sense of all this chaos. I'm looking at joining a church and researching different spiritual traditions. Is there any research that says what the impact is of spirituality on success at work?

Read More Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Interpersonal EDGE: Does Gray Hair Ruin Career?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I recently attended an unemployment workshop, and the teacher told us that if we had any gray in our hair we should run out and color it. Doesn't this advice amount to supporting age discrimination in the workplace?
 

Read More Sunday, December 19, 2010
Retire Smart: Silicon Valley Entrepreneur Rides to the Rescue of Investors Paying High Fees

By Mark Miller
Tribune Media Services

Most investment advisors measure their success by a yardstick called assets under management-the amount clients have entrusted them to invest. Mitch Tuchman is more interested in the dollars he's been able to bring "out of management."
 

Read More Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Is Job Loyalty for Better or Worse?

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I have worked for my company for 10 years, and the manager I loved just retired. The guy that took his place is a jerk! I feel disloyal, because even though my company has been good to me, I'm flirting heavily with the idea of leaving. Should I stay or should I go?
 

Read More Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Management Strategies for Generation Tech Obsessed


By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. I supervise a number of younger workers. They seem to have grown an appendage for texting on their cell phones and have the attention span of a gnat. How do I motivate them to focus on their jobs?
 

Read More Sunday, November 21, 2010
On the Road with MoJo Table-for-Two Reviews: FRAN'S HAMBURGERS

 

 
 
1822 South Congress
Austin, TX 78704
 
Price Range: 
$5.95 - $10.95 
Traditional diner atmosphere with friendly customer service
 
 
[Mo:]  When you think about old school, traditional burger join
ts, what thoughts come to your mind?
Read More Sunday, October 10, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Become a Wizard of Multitasking!

Q. All the managers in my company are being asked to do more with less. Most days I just feel like tearing my hair out! Do you have any suggestions about multi-tasking especially when you manage people?

Read More Sunday, October 10, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Get Even by Doing Well

 By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I ended up getting squeezed out of my last job by an underhanded coworker and a malicious boss. I have to admit that revenge fantasies are consuming most of my time, even though I found a better job. How do I handle wanting to get even?
Read More Sunday, September 26, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Workplace Suffering Can Result in Enlightenment

By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services

Q. There are so many things wrong with my current job that it would take a book to list them all. I know a lot of people these days are saying it is good for my peace of mind and spiritual development to be in the now. How do you "be in the now" when reality sucks?

Read More Sunday, September 12, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Sexual Tension Complicates Workplace

 Q. I work with a guy and can tell we are both extremely attracted to each other. We are both married and I don't want an affair. How do I handle the sexual tension?

Read More Saturday, August 28, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Fixes for Soured Workplace Friendship

Q. I've been buddies for a couple of years with a coworker. I think she's avoiding me. I consider her a good friend and want to fix the problem. What's the best way to mend the rift?

Read More Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Is Rage Over Political Correctness PC?

 Q. I used a common phrase around a female coworker and was immediately attacked for being sexist. I didn't know this phrase was offensive to her. I'm an older white guy and becoming paranoid about opening my mouth. How do I deal with a workplace that is increasingly politically correct?

Read More Friday, July 2, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Co-workers' War Wrecking Productivity? Here a Plan!

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I'm working with a team composed of people from different departments assigned to implement a new program. Two individuals seem more interested in fighting with each other than getting the job done. Nobody wants to get in the middle. Ideas?
Read More Sunday, June 20, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Change Boss from Superchicken to Superman!

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q: My boss is a chicken and allows this one employee to walk all over him. Should I step in and tell my coworker to shape up?

 

Read More Saturday, May 8, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Breathe Life into Your Old Career!

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q: When I started out in my career, I guess I was idealistic. Now I just feel tired and burnt out. After what happened to the stock market, I'm now stuck with working longer. How do I breathe new life into an old career? 
 
Read More Friday, April 23, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Reduce Anxiety to Engage Stonewalling Co-worker

 Q. What can you do or say to a person when you have an office conflict if they refuse to engage you in dialogue, and gossip about you from afar? Aren't there some people who just won't talk about problems?

 
Read More Monday, April 12, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Drowning in Disappointment? Here's Your Way Out

 

Drowning in Disappointment? Here's Your Way Out
Read More Saturday, March 13, 2010
Freedom of Information Act - Your Right to Know

Journalists and citizens who file Freedom of Information Act requests often expect delay or denial, unfortunately, that can impact  your daily life. Oftentimes, the lack of information provided by governmental agencies limit the ability to investigate issues, protect individuals or open the doors of justice. istockphoto

Read More Friday, February 26, 2010
Sunshine Week: Your Right to Know


Did you know that you can ask for the documents below under FOIA (Freedom of Information Act)?

Read More Friday, February 26, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: Workplace Achilles Heel: Do You Know Yours?

By Dr. Daneen Skube

Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have a coworker who is talented, smart and proactive. He also flies off the handle any time he thinks anyone is controlling him. How do I make it clear I am NOT trying to control him?
Read More Thursday, February 25, 2010
Interpersonal EDGE: GOOD INTENTIONS MISUNDERSTOOD? HERE'S WHAT TO DO!
By Dr. Daneen Skube
Tribune Media Services
 
Q. I have a coworker who has decided I'm trying to undermine him. He has completely misunderstood several interactions and will only talk to me long enough to accuse me of my latest "sin." I've also discovered he lied to me about several facts. How do I fix this problem?
Read More Sunday, May 11, 2008
Spring Urban Fashions 1-9

Lot's of bold flashy vibrant colors are what we want for 50% of our summer wardrobe. Look for combinations of stripes, flowers, faces, maps, geometric shapes and any and every pattern that comes to mind, just focus on the colors.

Read More Sunday, June 2, 2002
Spring Urban Fashions

         Summer is definitely around the corner.  Weddings, graduation parties, back yard barbecues, baby showers, birthdays and social gatherings are awaiting you. We will not stand in front of our closets pondering over that big question of what to wear!

Read More Sunday, May 19, 2002
FASHION: How to Shop Wisely for Diamonds for Mother's Day & Other Special Occasions

NEWSTREAM -- It's that time of year... when mothers are appreciated just a little more, love is acknowledged in special ways, and graduations are rewarded.

Read More Sunday, May 5, 2002
New "iTeller(TM)" Will NEVER Charge a Usage Fee and Offers an Array of Services!


No More Passwords or Debit Cards -- City-Money's New ATM -- iTeller -- Requires Only Thumb Print or Eye Scan

Read More Sunday, May 5, 2002

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