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By Cathy M. Rosenthal,
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I have a Pomeranian named Winston who I am very bonded to. My boyfriend has a labradoodle named Puddles who is very sweet but needs lots of love and attention. We have all been living together for a year now. Any time I'm giving Winston attention, Puddles inserts herself between us and pushes him out of the way. With my boyfriend traveling a lot for work, I'm trying to split my attention between them, but Winston often gives up and walks away from our snuggle sessions. I can tell my little guy is getting frustrated. He has started to stand on the couch and bark at Puddles almost compulsively. He's also started pooping inside. I don't know how to split my attention between them fairly when it's just me, and I don't know how to calm Winston down when he's clearly upset that Puddles is in his space. Please help. – Karen, Costa Mesa, California
Even though you all have been together as a family for a year, Winston and Puddles are exhibiting stress behaviors. Puddles is needing constant attention (she is probably insecure when your boyfriend is away), and Winston is having trouble with Puddles in his space.
Get them both a canine pheromone collar to wear and start training them so they know their boundaries. You have to be able to tell Puddles “sit,” “down,” “out” or “not now” whenever she tries to get in between you and Winston. Winston needs to receive the exact same training so they both understand what's expected of them.
Assign each dog their own reward word like “awesome” for Winston and “bingo” for Puddles. A reward word is what you say when your dog does something right and is always followed by a treat. Train them separately at first, so they learn their separate reward words.
To teach “sit,” ask the dog to “sit” and wait for them to comply. Then say the reward word and give them a treat. To teach “down,” ask them to sit, then put the treat in front of their nose and move your hand to the ground as you say “down.” Your dog will naturally fall into the down position as they follows the treat to the ground. Say the reward word and give them a treat. Teach them “out” when they walk into the kitchen. Simply stand in front of your dog and point your arm out over their body, take one step toward them, and say “out.” Your dog will instantly oblige.
“Not now” is the simplest phrase to teach. When my dog wakes me too early, I tell him “not now.” There was no special training involved because the phrase was paired with my lack of action, and my dog learned he needs to go back to bed until I am up. This phrase also works great when he wants dinner and it isn't dinner time.
You can use any of these phrases when you are giving affection to Winston and need Puddles to wait her turn, and vice versa. Always follow up with the dog you asked to wait, so they learn you are not saying “no.” When each dog understands their own reward word, you can train them together throughout the day. Always use the right reward word for each dog.
Once they know what you and your boyfriend expect from them, they will both relax more and not be as needy.
Cathy M. Rosenthal is a longtime animal advocate, author, columnist and pet expert who has more than 25 years in the animal welfare field. Send your pet questions, stories and tips to [email protected] Please include your name, city, and state. You can follow her @cathymrosenthal.